Yesterday as I was shopping in one of Jogjakarta shopping mall, I went by the magazine section and decided to buy the Marie Claire October 2012 edition. One of the articles in that magazine discusses the issue of women in a marriage relationship that by opportunities gained higher salary that the man (husband). This article is very interesting to me because with the enhancement of today's generation, woman are able to compete equally with man in any field of work. There is no more burden that makes women unable to compete with man in their work life.

In the Indonesia culture, there is a strong perception that man (husband) should be the head of a family that is responsible for the financing of the family, while woman (wife) is responsible for the management of the family. Because that culture has strongly embed in the Indonesian society, it becomes a taboo situation when the man (husband) receives lower salary than the women (wife).

In some situation, when the wife have higher salary and position, it creates a very stressful situation for the husband. This is because the husband felt that there are under a threat because their role as the head of the family becomes threatened. Sometimes, the personality of the husband tend to change in a negative degree (example from being loving to hurtful) because of the stress they burden. In fact, many people said that a family that positions the wife as the main "bread hunter" will create a potential of conflicts, especially on the financial issues.

So on the article written on Marie Claire, I learned several actions that will enable the minimization of conflicting situations when the wife has higher salary that the husband.

First, even though the wife salary is higher than the husband salary, make sure that the husband is still the main "bread winner". This means that the responsibility of the marriage expenses (example the children school tuition, daily expenses) is still being the husband responsibility. If in some situation, the husband cannot manage to be responsible for the expenses, then there should be a discussion first before the wife take a step to help. In this way, the husband will feel honored and respected. Then, they should also be able to manage an equal lifestyle. Its is also very important to discuss everything with the partner including the sensitive issue of "financing". Last but not least, is respect. If you want to be respected by your partner, you first have to respect your partner.

So for all the women out there in the world who have the ability to have higher income than their husband, be proud! But, never forget to respect your partner. Always remember that your relationship worth more than any money in the world. So do not let money destroy the joy of the relationship.

With love,

Nothing lives eternal. Not a person. Not an animal. Not even a single thing.

Today I lost something that captures moments in my life. Happy moments, sad moments, and priceless moments. My camera.

I bought that camera when I was still in my 3rd semester during my undergraduate study. My father bought that for me as a gift for the appreciation of my achievement at that time. It was my very first digital camera. I took my camera with me almost everywhere I go to capture priceless moments. I also bring my camera to the UK. My camera had capture so many wonderful things that reminds me of wonderful moments of my past.

But now, my camera is gone. For the very first time, I did not bring my camera with me. Usually I always put it in my bag so I carry it everywhere I go. But since my arrival from the UK, I start to spend a lot of time at home. So I decided to put my camera in one of my cupboard. I thought it was save. But today I've just realize that it is gone. The cover bag of it is still in my cupboard. But I cannot find my camera inside it. I'm so sad of it...:(

Oh well, nothing is eternal. I have to let it go. I hope that God will give me an opportunity to be able to buy another camera to replace my lost camera. So pray and work for some extra cash. Start saving up..!

With Love,

Hey everyone..

As an appreciation of my love for food, I have made a brand new blog just to share things about foods.

The blog will consists about almost anything about foods, from recipe until culinary adventure. For those who understands Indonesian (since it will be posted in Indonesian), and looovveesss food, FOODISM blog is highly recommend for you.

Please visit the site. Also don't forget to "FOLLOW" the blog.

Check out the blog in the following link:

http://fromfoodism.blogspot.com

With Love,

Good bye September..

Hello October...

Every year around, October has been the most exciting month of the year. October is always filled with excitements because of Halloween celebrated at the end of October. The festivals filled with great imagination and creativity. Last year October was my first experience celebrating Halloween. I don't know if this year I will have the chance to experience Halloween celebration or not. Another October excitement is the celebration of my Birthday...!

This year will be a special October filled with exciting challenges and exciting moments. This October, I will celebrate my 22nd Birthday. This year October, there will be the Idul Adha celebration which will enable me to meet up with many family members. Also, this October, a family of mine is having her wedding party.

Exciting challenges is also waiting for me this October. The challenge of finishing my first masterpiece, and the challenge to be accepted for my dream job.

So Hello October... Hope to become the best October ever..!

Kisses..